Strong communication skills is like any other skill - you learn it. Due to early circumstances, schooling, role models, and menta health you may not have learned effective communication skills. Four telltale signs that you might struggle with communication are:
There are frequent misunderstandings. Others either don't listen to you or they misinterpet what you've said. You may easily misinterpret others.
You find it hard to express your thoughts, feelings, or ideas clearly. Your mind might be too busy thinking about what others think of you. As a result, you freeze and your mind could go blank or fuzzy.
Your emotions might take over. You end up withdrawing from interactions or others withdraw from you because you’re coming across aggressive.
You feel anxious when communicating important ideas and thoughts.
If you recognise any of these signs in yourself, don't worry. Learning how to be an assertive communicator can help you overcome these barriers. A few benefits of being an assertive communicator include:
Improved Relationships: Assertive communication fosters healthier and more positive relationships. By expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully, you create an environment of trust and open communication.
Enhanced Self-Esteem: Assertive communication helps you recognise and acknowledge your own needs and feelings. This self-awareness contributes to increased self-esteem and confidence, as you learn to assert your rights without being overly passive or aggressive.
Conflict Resolution: Assertiveness is a crucial skill in resolving conflicts. When you can communicate your needs and concerns assertively, you are more likely to find mutually agreeable solutions and prevent misunderstandings from escalating.
Setting Boundaries: Assertiveness allows you to establish and maintain clear boundaries. By expressing your limits and expectations, you reduce the likelihood of being taken advantage of or feeling overwhelmed by others' demands.
Reduced Anxiety and Stress: Unexpressed feelings and needs can lead to stress and frustration. Learning to communicate assertively enables you to express yourself in a healthy way, reducing internal tension and promoting emotional well-being.
If you want to be an effective communicator and learn or up-level your assertive communication skills, find out more about our short online course or contact us to reach out to one of our psychologists.